Its my understanding that there is only 1 free go here in Northern Ireland - for everyone (encluding couples who already have children) i know that is deff the case cos i have had 1 free go and i already have 2 children from a previous marriage.
Re: Egg donation/sharing ... that is available here but i belive only at Origin (Private clinic) im not sure about the RVH.
As for the long waiting list, i completly understand ur frustration, we had a long wait while getting to the top of the list, but u must understand that there is only 1 NHS hosp in the North who caters for IVF/ICSI etc, i know that IUI can be done in smaller hosps,but not the bigger treatment. If they were to allow them at the smaller hosptials, then it would be so much easier for everyone concerned.
Re: The people complaining about infertility not being an illness, then i cant even comprehend what they are thinking of. But i would be one of those ladies who they would shout at. My infertility is due to being steralized when i was 24, and regretting it ever since, but my husband has no children, why should he suffer. Anyhow im not here to give off about the way society treats infertility, i guess if it was them or their wives/girlfriends/sisters - then they wouldnt be gobbing off about it .... it happens to a LOT of couples and it IS an illness, it is something that is wrong inside ur body that just isnt working properly and u need help to get it working ...
There, ive said my piece, i would love to write to theninister here and give him my piece ofmind, so im all for it hun, u write ur letter - maybe even get a Petition (sp?) going, cos i for one would deff sign it ...
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