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Thursday, September 28th 2017, 4:29pm

Just starting out

Hi everyone I am new to this forum and already think it looks very helpful. Infertility seems to be a subject no-one really talks about so it's really nice to know there is a friendly helpful community you can be a part of.

A little about us so far. I had been on the pill for years & decided to come off it before we got married so we could start trying for a baby on our honeymoon. I then didn't get a period for 8 months, the doctors wouldn't really help apart from the standard blood tests (all came back normal!) as we had to have been trying for a minimum 18 - 24 months but as one kindly doctor pointed out you need to have a period to be able to try. Due to not wanting to wait that long & knowing something wasn't right we booked to go to a fertility clinic who looked at the results & pointed out a few things like thyroid etc. As it would happen my period arrived just before the first appointment! So queue the start of the waiting while I had to test for 3 months to see if I was ovulating - nope not once did it show I was. Back to the clinic we started to discuss Clomid which is what we thought it would all result in, when I mentioned my in-between bleeding. The consultants face changed & I was whisked back in for another internal scan which showed blocked tubes full of fluid. After a second consultant coming in & giving the same prognosis we were told they would probably have to be taken out. We went full of hope & it all drained from me lay there on that examining table. I was devastated, a lot of wine was drank that afternoon. Anyway, as we have a bonafide 'problem' we have been referred to the NHS as we should receive funding. Enter the next stage of waiting & finally a meet with a consultant about a laparoscopy is next week. I am so nervous about what it all entails & it feels like such a big hill to climb. I feel so grateful that we went to the clinic & have got this far ahead in the process, if we were still waiting for the doctors recommendation we'd have to wait another 18 months to get to this stage.

I only really talk to my husband, parents & 1 friend about it as it has made me feel quite vulnerable & really knocked my confidence. I'm at that age where we all got married last year & now everyone is pregnant. While I am so happy for my friends I find all the announcements so hard, my friends baby was born on my birthday which was about a week after we found out & I sobbed so hard I don't know where it came from. It would be nice to be able to speak to people who understand the turmoil of emotions that come with all this.

Anyway sorry for the rambling, as I mentioned this is all new to me! Would be nice to hear off anyone experiencing the same process/emotions/problems.

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Friday, September 29th 2017, 11:35am

Hi just wanted to say I understand completely how you feel and the mixed emotions when a friend has a baby I have been through a similar situation to you .we started trying before our wedding (1st anniversary this weekend!) but as we had never been careful (and I wasn't on the pill) I knew something g wasn't right . Went for private tests I had severe endometriosis didn't ovulate etc so I had a laparoscopy to remove large cysts in April 1st round of ICSI (as DH has sperm issues too) in July . That cycle wasn't successful for us and we only had one embryo fertilise out of 6 eggs . So anyway we are about to start another round of icsi next month as I don't have much time left to use my own eggs due to the endo - and all this before the required 24 months for initial NHS consultation
me 29 DH 38
Stage 4 Endo and MFI

#1 GCRM -July 17 - BFN
#2 GCRM -Nov 17-BFP !! - M/c at 6w1d .heartbroken
#3 - Serum Greece-June 18 -bfn..what now!?

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Friday, September 29th 2017, 11:40am

This keeps deleting half my messages lol - anyway look You have a long and hard journey ahead of you.no one quite understands the mental torture of trying to be positive and wanting something so much that seems to come so easily to other people who don't even want it . It is hard but the positive stories on this forum give me hope and hopefully will give you hope too . Best of luck with your surgery hopefully it's done soon for you and you get your happy ending im here if you ever have questions or need to rant xx
me 29 DH 38
Stage 4 Endo and MFI

#1 GCRM -July 17 - BFN
#2 GCRM -Nov 17-BFP !! - M/c at 6w1d .heartbroken
#3 - Serum Greece-June 18 -bfn..what now!?

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Sunday, October 1st 2017, 5:24pm

Hi Mrs 2017, i just read your post & had to reply. I had a miscarriage, & 2 ectopic which resulted in the removal of both my fallopian tubes. A year later we had icsi & as i write this my 13 month old son is having a nap!! It is a massive decision, removing your tubes but you have to trust the medical profession they know best. My advise would be to remain positive & don't give up hope you are at the beginning!!!!
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Monday, October 2nd 2017, 10:54am

Thank you bumble - that does give me some hope . Been feeling very negative recently which isn't like me and which isn't helpful when our consent appointment to start next treatment is on Thursday lol! I am so glad to hear that it worked for you thanks so much for the positive story it's just what I needed to hear when about to start all over again hopefully better outcome this time :) xx
me 29 DH 38
Stage 4 Endo and MFI

#1 GCRM -July 17 - BFN
#2 GCRM -Nov 17-BFP !! - M/c at 6w1d .heartbroken
#3 - Serum Greece-June 18 -bfn..what now!?

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