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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 3:02pm

How long did you wait before moving on from IVF to Adoption?

Hi,


DH and I have been TTC for almost 5 years. We have endured a very rough rollercoaster ride during our 3 attempts at IVF PGD. We are coming to the end of our final cycle (which almost never happened twice).


Some people will think it's inappropriate for me to post while being in my 2WW but please let me be clear I do not view adoption as 'the next best thing'. DH and I have agreed that we won't be doing another IVF cycle. If we are lucky for this little embie to stick we will still go ahead with adoption to help extend the lovely family we so long to build.


I have purchased some adoption books as I feel research is the 1st step. Last year I received adoption packs from two local authorities. I am interested in both domestic and international adoption.


How long did it take you from IVF to Adoption?


Thank you in advance xx

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 3:14pm

Hi Hun I don't know about adoption but have just read your infertility journey and wanted to wish you all the luck in the world.xxxx

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 3:15pm

Thank you hun that's very kind :) xx

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 6:07pm

Hiya

i'm no expert but we weren't even going to try icsi we were told in the nicest poss way we were wasting money so we started going to the adoption meetings (3 in total) and a meeting with a social worker, long story short we felt we had to give treatment a go and it worked, as far as i know you have to wait 6-12 months after treatment to start the process, however i see no harm in contacting your local social work for some info, i like you plan on adopting regardless of what happenes in the future, it can be such a long process .

but heres hoping you get a :BFP:

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 6:38pm

Thank you & congrats on your pregnancy :) :) :)

My pregnancy test is next Tuesday so it will all become a little clearer then. I've already spoken to 2 local authorities but they are a little reluctant to go any further because of treatment. X

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 7:57pm

Hope i see your in glasgow what authorities have you tried?

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 8:15pm

I have spoken to West Dunbartonshire and Glasgow City Council xx

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 9:03pm

Hi Hope, not sure if its the same but my husband is going through adopting my daughter and once we contacted our local children services, we can apply 3 months after that date to the court, then you get assigned a social worker and then all the checks are done and you have to attend meetings etc.. But best of luck for your test date I really hope you get a BFP xx

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 9:11pm

Thank you very much for replying :) that's not long at all. X

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 9:23pm

Hi Hope

We've just started our adoption journey 6 months after our last IVF cycle. Most LA's we contacted said we had to wait that long.

Wishing you all the best in your 2ww.

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Sunday, February 17th 2013, 9:27pm

I imagine the wait is a good thing too because it will allow us to rebuild after IVF etc. I guess my research books etc would keep me busy in the meantime.

Good luck with your journey xx

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Monday, February 18th 2013, 3:29am

Hello dear Hope,

Just wanted to wish you best of luck on all your journeys. I have very close friends who adopted two young brothers and are really happy now. Sorry can't help much with timelines though as it was in another country and they never did IVF either but I also heard it is generally a 6 month wait in the UK.

I will keep following your journey and can't wait to see you become a family :-) It is great you will even adopt if this miracle embryo sticks which I really hope so!!

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Monday, February 18th 2013, 8:34am

Hello Hope,

I have everything crossed for you that you get a BFP on Tuesday.

RE adoption each LA / Voluntary Agency differs in how long they like you to have had between tx and starting the adoption process. When we were starting out I rang around about 10 different agencies and their preferences ranged from 6 months to a year. They say you need this time to 'grieve' and mentally prepare yourself for the new journey. That said there is no harm in them sending you out info now and then once the time has passed you can call back and start off by attending a few information evenings.

To give you an idea on our time frame we had out last tx in September 2011, started making adoption inquiries in Jan 2012 and are going to panel this week. With all the government talk of needing to shake the system up though you might be lucky to find that when you start it'll go a lot quicker! Goodluck! x x

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Monday, February 18th 2013, 9:26am

Hello Rianon,

I love that you follow my journey, I really do appreciate it. I can't help put notice the time you posted, I imagine you were up feeding the little one :) hope they are both doing well.

That's lovely regarding your friends. DH and I are just so desperate to become parents (as you know). Even before TTC we both said it would be wonderful to adopt one day. Obviously we didn't imagine it would be so soon but this may be the path we were meant to go down. Tomorrow will be our half way mark in the 2ww, which has went fast! I'm really struggling with the clexane injections - they are so painful. Praying every day that miracle embie hangs on then the journey to find a sister or brother would continue.

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Monday, February 18th 2013, 9:32am

Hello Mini,

Thank you for taking the time to post. The LAs that I spoke to last summer sent me out the packs which are quite informative. One LA said we were suitable for 'baby adoption' which is great. I hope to adopt as young as possible. They did mention on the phone have a break in between changing paths but they also said it bottles down to how we cope etc. I would take the break to research as much as I can then when our time came I would be in a better position knowledge wise. I want to understand this process as much as possible. DH and I may also squeeze in a wee holiday too lol.

Lots depend on getting through the next week and finding out if this miracle embie was able to hang on. I just feel so tired of constantly waiting...

All the very best at Panel this week, I'm sure it will go very well xx

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Monday, February 18th 2013, 10:21pm

HI Hope

Firstly good luck...... we had our final egg donation transfer in August 2007, and started the adoption journey February 2008.... we definately needed the 6 month break to initailly feel adoption was the right way forward.... thinking back now I totally needed that time xx


Beautiful Daughter and gorgeous Son through adoption, my family now complete , 2009 started our journey and complete Oct 2012 ....

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Tuesday, February 19th 2013, 5:39pm

Thank you Marlene :)

I found out this morning that my clinic made a mistake regarding my OTD date - so frustrating as its now pushed me back 6 days. I'm just glad I phoned them about it, I knew the dates didn't seem right. I won't know now until the 4th but I will test the weekend before my app.

I received an e mail this morning from Amazon saying my adoption books are now in the post. I'm keen to learn as much as possible.

How did you find the process? X

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Friday, February 22nd 2013, 10:30pm

Hi Hope2011,

We are currently in the process of looking into adoption after being told in January that our only options as donor eggs and we decided it wasn't for us. We have been told by all voluntary and local authorities hat we need to wait 6 months after the end of our last treatment before we can proceed with formal processes but you can have meetings with social workers for more information after 2-3 months so you can decide who you want to go with.

Wishing you all the best of luck with you OTD though xx



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