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miriam84

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Saturday, July 2nd 2011, 7:27pm

mf sons will also be infertile

Hello my name is miriam im 26 my dh is also 26 we have been married for only 4 months

but 2 months into our marriage we found out that dh has Extremeley low motility of 10% of which 5% is progressiveley motile his count is 30million ml and a volume of 2 ml, i was wondering if any one has had a simmiliar problem and what if any diagnoses they have been given, ive been reading so much on mf that i now feel like an expert, im paticulary worried about dna fragmentation as i know past a certain point not even icsi will help,another major thing that is worrying me is having male sons i think its only common sense that most of these problems are genetic and that many of these boys will also be infertile,i just dont think i could put any child through the pain of infertility,has anyone had gender selection and picked female embryos for this very reason as i am considering doing this ,i even seen people with y deletions having tese pese and having boy babies how can anyone justify this i am not jugding anyone but just want to know how others have come to terms with the fact they maybe given birth to children who will also suffer like we are suffering.

thank you and good look all of you on this soul destroying journey

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Sunday, July 3rd 2011, 6:55pm

Hi Miriam

Firstly, sorry to hear that you're going through this, it is hard to take at first but you do learn to adjust.

Has your DH had a subsequent test as initial results should always be repeated at least 3 months apart? have you been given advice about lifestyle changes?

if you have the full SA report i recommend you post on 'sperm scientist's thread. the count was very good if it was 30mill/ml? which is a great start.

I'm not sure about the theory of passing on infertility to children, you've obviously read more about this than i have but i think i read somewhere about icsi having this potential although its a small chance. have you had a appointment with a specialist (and/or counsellor - would be a good idea) as they will be able to give you all of the unbiased information which you need. Google can not be your best friend when it come to this stuff [zx064]

good luck
Laura
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Sunday, July 3rd 2011, 8:14pm

hi,
ive read about this also, it does say that there is a chance that this can be passed on but to be honest science is coming on so much that i am trying not to worry myself and as we had our DS through natrual conception before finding out about DH having low normal sperm if i think about it too much i will just worry myself to death!
I have also looked into sperm selection (not due to the problems just because i am desperate for a girl and before finding out about problems (which make everything worse) i was told that after having my DS i cannot have a natral birth only c-sections and they only recommend 3 (DS being one) and we only have 2 "goes" left, but to be honest with all the waiting and problems now i will just be extatic to be pregnant again! anyway i digress, sprem selection cannot be done in the UK and it is really REALLY exprensive!!
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Sunday, July 3rd 2011, 8:50pm

Hi, Miriam
I don't think that it is a given that MF infertility is inherited. Sometimes this can be caused by things like illnesses that your DH may have had and it would therefore not be passed on to any of your children. Yes it is possible that they could inherit it but there is an equal chance that they won't. Also there is nothing that says your daughters will not be affected...
With regards to Gender selection: most ethical clinics will only allow for gender selection where the disorder is such that it would threaten the life of the baby and/or the life expectancy of the child. Most will not view a 50/50 chance of inheriting a fertility issue as a reason to choose the gender of a child as infertility can often be treated.
Good luck with whatever you decide, Hun...


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Monday, July 4th 2011, 8:49pm

THANK YOU EVERY1 FOR YOUR REPLYS



finding out about my dh infertility has been the hardest most painful experience of my life ,i can only compare it to a death of a loved one,my dh is an only child all he ever wanted was to carry on his family name ,he is devastated he just crawls into a ball and sobs im very worried for his mental health.please could you give me some advice on ways i can help him cope i always reassure him that the only thing that matters is we love each other,he has always been very sensitive kind person who adored children his mother had him at 40 sometimes i feel like she must of done something i know thats wrong of me but 6 of her other kids also died in infancy his father was a serial chain smoker who died of cancer when he was 11 i worry that his father may have had damaged sperm, all these thoughts keep rushing thru my head i go from hope to utter despair 10 times a day i think im cracking up

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