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  • "Princess zoe" started this thread

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Reg: Feb 23rd 2008

Location: Preston

Children: Little boy called jack xx

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Wednesday, February 11th 2009, 9:54am

Can I adopt

Hi was after a bit of advice I work with a young girl who is in a foster home at the moment and she is up for adoption but if I wanted to have her would it affect my ivf attempts or not?


me - 29
DH - 35

1st icsi- April 2008 - BFN
1st FET - August 2008 - BFP - M/C October 2008

Natural :BFP: 5/7/2009

7 Week Scan 23/07/2009 - [zx076] seen
10 week scan [zx076] seen
20 week scan - 20/10/09 bab22

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Reg: Mar 17th 2008

Location: Southampton

Children: One step daughter

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Wednesday, February 11th 2009, 10:42am

Hi Zoe,
I wouldnt have thought it would affect your IVF attempts hun, I am sure someone with some more accurate knowledge will come along and answer your question soon.
Good luck xxx

First ICSI April 08 - 9 eggs, zero fertilisation :bawl:
2nd ICSI Sept 08 - 10 eggs, 100 % fertilisation ?( - BFN tho
Natural FET January 30th - BFN
NK Cells Test 22nd April - Result - Normal.
ICSI 3 - November - BFN

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Reg: Jun 4th 2008

Location: fishbowl

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Saturday, February 14th 2009, 10:53am

hi Zoe

yes it woud affect your IVF attempts. when you adopt your fertility treatment have to have stopped and you ususally have to wait 6months - 1 year depending on the agency or LA that you go with to allow you time to grieve for the child you will not cannot have.

Most would not even contemplate adoption with you still going thru any kind of treatment and they would also require medical checks etc which would clarify when the treatment ended anyway once you have your private medical.

To adopt a child you must have gone through a period of reflection as adopting a child is nothing like having your own just from the point of the view of the child and the experiences they have been through and had.

To adopt you must undergo a home visit, 8 month approval process and then it can take up to 1 year to get placed with child and they want you to be sure you are prepared to accept that.

I am just about to start on my adoption journey and we first enquired when still having fertility treatment, at the time I felt it was harsh but 18 months on, I can see why and am glad i have had the reflection period.

Dont know about fostering BUT you could ring the LA and find out. Adoption though its a defo NO you cannot have treatment.

Good luck with whatever you decide

Me 43

TTC 6 years
12x clomid BFN
2 IUI's overstimulated
1 natural preg m/c Dec 07
Adoption journey started April04/09

Now a mummy



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Location: N Ireland

Children: One son, aged 8, daughter 1

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Sunday, February 15th 2009, 1:46pm

Basil is right, P. Zoe, you need a year space between fertility attempts and home study. Any questions, pm me Lesa x
Keep smiling :happy:

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Reg: Feb 11th 2009

Location: Gosport

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Wednesday, February 25th 2009, 1:17pm


Yes you are all right, I've been down that road, while waiting on the list for IUI, I can't look into adopting until I give the treatment up and have a letter from my consultant to say that I have. Bit mean

Me 39 DH 38 Unexplained Fertility
1st IUI 27th January BFN ( Had a bad insemination) :BFN:
2nd IUI 28th aug :BFP:

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Reg: Sep 2nd 2008

Location: essex

Children: Andy has 2 children from a previous marriage

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Wednesday, February 25th 2009, 6:04pm

Have not had my first home yet, but have been to the info evening and have been through the fist written application process. The LA did ask if we had finished treatment and when our last ended, but they did not mention any time limits or paper work form cons etc.

Our last treatment finished almost 6 months ago, and they haven't mantioned that that is too short a time! Maybe they all have different criteria depending upon their immeadiate circumstances?

Good luck.
I'm Sarah (32), married to Andy (39) for 3 years. Andy had a vasectomy before we met, after a failed reversal op, we have had 3 unsuccessful IVF cycles, another reversal op - OMG it worked - now trying naturally.