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Friday, September 19th 2008, 9:24am

I need advice, loss after ICSI

Hi all,
With bitterness and pain I had a spermwash/ICSI in chelsea and westminster hospital and everything went sucessful with twin pregnancy but unfortunately I had a miscarriage on 22weeks of the pregnancy this sept 08.I am now totally depressed and know noyhing to do bc i really need a baby and my husband does not want a sperm donner. I need your advice from the forum.



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Friday, September 19th 2008, 9:38am

Hi Mounso

I am so very sorry for the loss of your precious babies, I wish I had some words that could ease your pain :sadface: We're here to support you, to listen when you want to talk or just be a shoulder when you need one, so please don't be afraid to lean on us.

Are your hospital supporting you? Has anyone spoken to you about SANDS? They are an amazing organisation who give support to those effected by the loss of a baby. Their website is here

We have a few threads here which may help a little, when you are ready to read them



As I said to you in my email, tragically we have another member who has also just lost twins at 22 weeks and who is posting here

Twins lost - What to do next?

Our thoughts and love are with you


Have we supported you? Can you support us?


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Friday, September 19th 2008, 9:39am

Hi Mounso,

I'm so sorry to read about your loss. You have been through a terrible experience and it is no wonder that you are feeling very depressed. You need to give yourself time to grieve, and to recover your own strength, both physical and emotional.

The ladies on FZ offer lots of advice and support and comfort, and I am sure people will come along soon who have gone through something similar and can offer you more advice than I can. But in the meantime, whilst everything is so raw, you really need to take some time out and not just throw yourself into another pregnancy before your body, and spirit, is really ready.

You don't say much about your circumstances. When you are ready, let us know what your situation is - why you needed ICSI - because then more people on FZ will be able to help as we have ladies here who have gone through just about everything you can imagine.

Thinking of you.


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Friday, September 19th 2008, 10:06am

Hi Mounso

I am so sorry to read about the loss of your babies. I can't begin to imagine the pain that you are going through at the moment.

I can understand your desire to want to become pregnant again quickly but as Jessica says, you need to take time to grieve. Everything will be so painful for you and your husband now that maybe it is not the best time to be making important decisions together about future treatment.

Sending you love and strength


ttc since July 06. 8 cycles of clomid. BFP on cycle 5 (Dec 07) ended in m/c at 9.5 weeks. Second BFP on cycle 8 (May 08)



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Friday, September 19th 2008, 3:28pm

so sorry for you loss :sadface:

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Friday, September 19th 2008, 3:33pm

so very very sorry for the loss of your babies :sadface:

We are here for you, if there is anything you need please do ask and we will do our best to help.

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Friday, September 19th 2008, 6:58pm

Hello Mounso

I am so very sorry to hear of the loss of your babies. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through right now. :sadface:

I do know that feeling of wanting to be pg again, I had it after my first loss and I would have done anything to be pg again, I wanted a baby back in my belly immediately and would have done anything to get it. I thought I was ready but I was still grieving and hadn't realised that nothing could replace the baby I lost. I was trying to fill the emptiness in my heart, but I didn't know it couldn't be filled. The emptiness in my heart is there for a reason, its for my lost babies, that space is especially for them it can't be filled by another baby.

You have to do what is right for you and your DH, but right now may not be a good time for making decisions. You've been through so much, you need to give yourself time to heal.

We're all here for you hun. Sending you all my love.

Thinking of you all.


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Wednesday, September 24th 2008, 7:52pm

Oh Mounso hun, what a terrible terrible time for you and your DH.

Please use the forum to gain strength from others who have been through similar experiences, whether it be ICSI or miscarriage. There's so much support here for you.

Sending love and strength to you both.


Me 40 DH 35 TTC 10yr
peritoneal mesothelioma, cystectomy 97 & 00
peritonectomy, lost both tubes & most of left ovary Aug 07

Dec 07 BFP b/ov m/c 9.6wk
July 08 BFN
Dec 08 BFP b/ov m/c 9.6wk

July 09 BFN
Nov 09 BFP 2 x sacs 1 b/o 1 no hrtbt m/c 9.2wk
May10 BFP at 8+4 m/mc @10wk scan ERPC

Found: High NK cells, DQ Alpha match, LAD neg & PAI-1 pos...

NOV 2010 - Immune IVF at CARE Manchester
:BFP: [zx076] :girl: born 25/8/11

OCT 2012 - Immune IVF at CARE Manchester
:BFP: [zx076] :boy: born 24/6/13