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Saturday, September 29th 2018, 2:34pm

Thanks everyone! So have I got this right, you either start tablets on day 21 or the first day of your period, then followed by injections?

It depends which protocol you are on. Long protocol you start Day 21. Short protocol you start Day 1. I’m pretty sure either way they control when your AF arrives so they can be in control of your cycle. They only do EC on certain days so that’s why they need to be in control. As the others said EC is dependant on how you respond to stimulation, whether your ready early or later..

At your appointment they will discuss what protocol you will need and pencil you in for EC depending where you are on your current cycle. You will also take away medication and see nurse to show you how to give it etc

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Saturday, September 29th 2018, 2:42pm

Gotcha! Thanks so much everyone. x

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Monday, October 1st 2018, 6:17pm

Hi

Hope everyone is doing well?

We were at the clinic today for a scan to check lining. It was triple layered and over 8mm thick so they were happy to book us in for our frozen transfer so we are going in a week on Wednesday.

Can anyone that has had a frozen transfer tell me how much notice you get before you have to go in? They said we will get a call first thing in the morning and then another call to tell us a time to go in but should have asked more about a rough time frame.

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Sunday, October 7th 2018, 8:43pm

As far as I remember we had a time to be there but they only thaw them that morning. Are you far away from clinic?

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Sunday, October 7th 2018, 9:36pm

We are only about 15-20 mins away and I have taken the day off work but my husband was going to go in to work till it was time to go but wasn't sure what kind of notice we will get. I am hoping they will tell us a rough time when they call in the morning.

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Monday, October 8th 2018, 10:29am


@SK88, they would call you in the morning to ask if you are okay and ready to go ahead, they will then tell you that the embryo will be thawed that day, it's usually done around 9 -11am, you then get another call that tells you to come in at a particular time usually around 30mins - 1 hour after the second call. At times, the embryologist can give you a time range of when they expect you to be in the clinic when you have the first morning call. The first time I had my transfer, I went to work and I left work to go for transfer, the second time I was at home and the third time I went to make my hair and aimed to finish by 12 noon. So you can be flexible with times but usually transfer is done around 11am - 12.30noon.
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Monday, October 8th 2018, 1:02pm

Thank you Kums17. Good to know just a rough time as wasn't sure if we would be waiting till later in the afternoon as would have made sure I had something to do to keep me busy but 11-12.30ish isn't too bad. I hope you are keeping well

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Saturday, October 20th 2018, 11:34am

Hi,

Just wondered how everyone is and how your transfer went, Sk88?

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Saturday, October 20th 2018, 8:19pm

Hi Scottishgirl,

Transfer went well thank you. Our little embryo coped well with the defrost so we were very pleased we didn't have to use more than one. 10 days into our 2 week wait and it is dragging! Can't wait for test day!

What stage have you reached?

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Saturday, October 20th 2018, 10:21pm

Great news! So hoping that it’s successful for you. Two week wait must be torture but you are nearly there! Are you managing it ok? Must be so hard to resist the temptation to test but better to wait I know.

We’ve had our info evening and first app and it turns out I won’t be starting tablets till December/January (hopefully just before Xmas if periods behave). I was a bit deflated at the time as I was so hoping to start this month or November but I’ve managed to tap into my “patience reserves” and have come to terms with it now! I find the waiting so hard as I just feel like we’ve been waiting forever. I know many will have waited a lot longer than us though so am trying to keep perspective on it all.

So hoping for good news for you soon, SK88. Hope everyone else is doing fine.

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Saturday, October 20th 2018, 10:49pm

Doing not too bad, worked part time last week so that was a good distraction but it's so hard to not be paranoid and question every little feeling. I've been feeling a lot different than I did last time but not sure if that's because I was still recovering from the egg recovery or if it's because it's going well. Im going to try my best to wait till Thursday as don't want to get a false reading.

That's good you are a one step closer but I understand it must be disappointing that you are having to wait till December. Everyone seems to be on the countdown to christmas already so hopefully with the distraction of that the next few weeks will fly by for you. It's really hard to keep perspective but I've actually found this forum helped with that as you don't feel so isolated and realise there are other people going through similar to you.

Hope everyone is doing well.

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Wednesday, October 24th 2018, 7:26pm

Hey, how is everyone doing?

Been so long since I have signed on in here, had received a casual call from clinic today and made me think to sign in and see how everyone is doing xx
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Saturday, October 27th 2018, 11:43am

Hi Bambi, not long for you now! Must be getting excited.

SK88, I’ve been thinking about you. Hope you had some good news on thursday.

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Saturday, October 27th 2018, 1:04pm

Hi,

Scottishgirl, we did indeed get good news on thursday, we got our BFP : D we are absolutely over the moon but can't help but being on edge still after last time but the line on the test was far stronger this time so trying to stay positive. It's going to be another long 2 weeks till our scan.


This might be a silly question but what is everyone who is on meds doing about the clock change? They told me before to take them at the same time every day so that hormone levels don't drop and rise too much so I don't know what to do.


Bambi you can't have too long to go now, you must be so excited.

How is everyone else doing?

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Saturday, October 27th 2018, 2:37pm

:) Whoop whoop! Amazing!!! Congratulations!! xx

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Saturday, October 27th 2018, 9:55pm

Thank you Scottishgirl :)

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 11:06am

HI everyone,

So it's 3 weeks tomorrow since FET and I got a BFP onThursday. I did another test this morning as I'm paranoid and had been getting cramps, it was still positive. I have now started bleeding. I've called the clinic and they have said to just hang tight it could be implantation but it could also be signs of things not going well.

Has anyone else had something similar?

I'm trying to stay positive but have got myself in a bit of a state.

Thanks in advance for any replies

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 5:40pm

Hi SK88, so sorry to hear this. Hope you are doing ok or as well as you can be anyway. I know it’s so hard but try not to panic. When I was previously pregnant I had cramping which they told me would have been my uterus stretching and also had bleeding. When I was scanned the bleeding was coming from my cervix as it can make cells super sensitive with pregnancy and there were no signs of bleeding coming from around the actual baby. I know I did lose that baby eventually but it was a “missed miscarriage” and not connected to either the cramping or the bleeding. There is every chance all will still be well with you.

The things I was told to watch out for were the colour of the bleeding (pinkish/brownish blood is less worrying) and also the quantity. As I’m sure you’ll know, there’s normally a fair bit of blood for a complete miscarriage.

Please try your best not to assume the worst and keep positive vibes for this bubba. I had to wait a week in between all of my three scans before things were confirmed for me so I know exactly how torturous this is but you will get through it. The initial shock is the worst.

Keep posting on here if you need to talk and make sure you lean on your loved ones for support too. Thinking of you. x

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 5:40pm

I meant to ask SK88, how long till your scan now?

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 6:50pm

Hi Scottishgirl,

Feeling a bit numb with it all now, just don't know what to think/feel. I'm devastated but trying to stay positive at the same time.

Thank you for letting me know about your experience, that is really reassuring to know and very much appreciated.

This bleed is completely different to when I misscarried, it's not too heavy, quite pink and no clots (sorry TMI) so I am trying my best to focus on the positives. I'm glad I did a test this morning as well as that has given me a bit of hope. The clinic told me to test again in a week but I think I'll do one in a few days.

My scan isn't till a week on Friday, I've asked if they could do it earlier as that will be 4 weeks and 2 days since transfer. They didn't seem keen and said they could maybe move it by a couple of days but no more than that as they can't see much so might actually end up causing more stress which I understand but seems so far away just now.

Thank you again for messaging back, my loved ones are trying their best to be there for me and reassure me but no one fully understand so its nice to speak to someone who has been through similar.x

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 7:22pm

That’s a REALLY good sign about the colour and quantity of the blood. The best thing you can do is think positively and try to keep yourself as busy as you can without overdoing it.

I know this will be tough but I’m not sure it’s helpful to test more often than every 6-7 days. I know everyone will be different but I didn’t get a negative test till I think about 12 days after my ERPC. It takes quite a bit of time for your HCG levels to come down so testing isn’t really 100% confirmation that all is well. I did exactly the same when I was waiting for my next scan looking for reassurance but in the end, it didn’t really make me feel better and I just obsessed more. I was nearly 11 weeks when they confirmed baby had died so my levels would have been higher but I think it still takes time to drop regardless. This is just my experience and obviously you do whatever you need to get through it but I thought I should share in case you didn’t realise.

They are right that there’s little to see until 7 weeks and you run the risk if you scan earlier of seeing no heart beat and thinking all is not well. That could be more damaging to you than the wait, awful as it is. And your emotional well-being is so important. So you draw on your reserves of amazing-woman-strength (you’ve endured IVF so it’s definitely there inside you girl! :)) , keep the positive thoughts and it will pass quicker than you think.


I really hope this has helped rather than worried you more. As I said, do whatever you need to get through it but I would delay testing again if you can manage.


Sending positive vibes and SO hoping for good news for you.

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 7:42pm

SK88, I’ve sent you a PM. Hope you got it?

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 7:53pm

I got your message and have replied so will speak to you there

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 7:59pm

Hi all.
I am new to this. Had my first appointment in September. Today I had my hyscoy procedure which showed tubes are good but couldn’t get a good image of the folicules - so I have to call back when my period starts to get another scan. They think it’s that I’m not ovulating as Progesterone Levels are 24 at peak. Anyone similar? Just nice to speak to people going though the same :!
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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 8:17pm

Hey Jo400,

Welcome to the forum! Of course it’s ok to post. This is a good place for support so post away!

Hope your Hycosy went well? My progesterone levels were quite low too - from 23-31 at its highest - but they seemed to think they hadn’t tested on exactly the right day and right enough, when scanned, I was ovulating. You may well be the same and if not, they may start you on Clomid which could work well for you if they are right about not ovulating. Hope you get some definitive answers soon!

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Tuesday, October 30th 2018, 8:54pm

Hi scottishgirl

I honestly thought I had been ovulating however last month I had bloods everyday was very tiring however they never got high enough they said. So fingers crossed I get this repeat scan in the next two weeks and take it from there.

I found the scan a little painful tbh but all worth it :)

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Monday, November 12th 2018, 1:16pm

Hey I have to get a Antral follicule count done between day 1-5.. I guess this means they will scan you while your on your AF is this correct... sorry stupid question. Doubting myself that’s correct.

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Tuesday, November 13th 2018, 7:05pm

Hi Jo400,

Yes, that sounds like it will be. I know that I have to have a scan a few days after stopping norethisterone and I think most have their period then when receiving that scan. I know it seems a little horrible but they will be used to it and so it won’t be a big deal for them.

Hope this helps. All ok with you otherwise?

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Wednesday, November 21st 2018, 12:38pm

Hi everyone, it's been a while I posted here. I check post at times but been very busy and so can't reply.

@Jo400, you are welcome and I hope you find it friendly here. Baseline scans are usually carried out during your menstrual period and really it's not a big deal to the team, so they do scans during your menstrual periods.

@Sk88, I am sorry for the roller coaster you have been through. IVF is tough but we are tougher. How are you doing? I hope all is well with you?

@Scottishgirl, I hope you are also doing well?

@Bambi, you are very close to EDD, hope you are keeping well and baby is giving sign of coming soon? I wish you safe delivery in Jesus' name. I pray for a healthy mum and baby. Please keep us posted of baby's arrival.

I have been busy with work and pregnancy has been going well to the glory of God. We have seen baby couple of times on scan and we are glad.

I pray we all get to experience the good side of IVF and we become mothers of our children.
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Thursday, November 22nd 2018, 12:53pm

HI Kums17,

I am 9 weeks tomorrow and it's has been a rollercoaster that's for sure! So I had a bleed at 5 +4 then was in pain the next day so the scanned me at 5+6 to rule out ectopic but told me we wouldn't see anything as it was so early. Turned out we saw heart beat and all was good so that was a relief. I had another bleed at 6 weeks but luckily have not had one since.

I do however have hyperemisis so ended up in Rubislaw on a drip for a day. It was all very stressful, I'm now on tablets to manage it and have been doing fine. We had a on extra scan on Tuesday just to make sure baby was doing ok after me being so ill and dehydrated but baby is doing really well.

Glad to here you are keeping well Kums17.

I hope everyone else's journeys are going well.

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Sunday, November 25th 2018, 4:26pm

Hey everyone, hope everyone is well

SK88 - oh goodness what a wee journey you have been on already but seems your wee baby is a fighter and not going anywhere! Poor you having hyperemisis, wouldn't wish that on my enemy, hope your feeling better and the rest of your pregnancy is happy and healthy. I doubt any of us would have a pregnancy without worry as IVF makes you so aware of how things can go wrong and how precious a miracle growing a life is, where some people take it for granted! All the best xx

Kums17 - glad to see your pregnancy is going well, hope it flies by for you, how far are you now?

Im 38+2days today, I have been very lucky and have been very healthy throughout, (except heartburn which is so underrated btw and fatigue etc but that's expected)! I have had a regular growth scans from 30 weeks and baby is simmering away nicely, have my next scan on Tuesday and will see the consultant afterwards and may make a plan to be induced.. my bump is very neat although I feel huge, I am still managing to walk my dogs a couple of miles each day and do housework etc but get tired so easily which I hope being active will help in labour, also still going to my pregnancy yoga which is great practice for breathing control and relaxation, I highly recommend this!!

Well I hope the next time I check in here I will have to some happy baby news to announce!!

Never give up faith, IVF is the most challenging hardest thing I have ever done in my life and after seven transfers, 4 miscarriages, 2 negatives (not to mention our previous miscarriages) and then our little miracle. It can test you, bring out emotions and a pain in your heart you never thought possible, but when it goes right it is the best feeling in the world. It can be so hard seeing family and friends moving on with their lives, having children, pregnancy/birth announcements etc, each one I read was like a knife in the heart. I changed my outlook and was determined it was going to be next, I manifested and changed my mindset to positive and I believed it happened.

Speak soon and sending lots of positive babies vibes xxx
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Monday, November 26th 2018, 12:09pm

Hi SK88,

I am so sorry for the rollercoaster you have been on. It must have been scary and stressful. I hope you are feeling much better now? I hear hyperemsesis clears up towards the 14th week of pregnancy, I hope and pray yours clears up quickly and you are able to enjoy this pregnancy. It's good to know that baby is doing well, wishing you a successful pregnancy.

I hope you are looking forward t your 12 weeks scan? it's usually a delight. Have you had your midwife booking yet? Though I didn't get to see my midwife until I was 11+3. Let's know how you get on.
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Monday, November 26th 2018, 12:14pm

It's good to hear from you Bambi and that you are keeping well. Looking forward to your good news. I am currently 23 + 2 today and really time flies.I am now gearing up to buy some baby things, we finally settled on car seat, pram and pushchair last week, looking forward to December and January sales to buy some other things.

Do you or any other person, have a preference for baby bath. I have been on the look out for baby bath with stand, big enough to last a couple of months while it has compartments to hold a new born well.


I hope everyone is doing well?

HI Kums17,

I am 9 weeks tomorrow and it's has been a rollercoaster that's for sure! So I had a bleed at 5 +4 then was in pain the next day so the scanned me at 5+6 to rule out ectopic but told me we wouldn't see anything as it was so early. Turned out we saw heart beat and all was good so that was a relief. I had another bleed at 6 weeks but luckily have not had one since.

I do however have hyperemisis so ended up in Rubislaw on a drip for a day. It was all very stressful, I'm now on tablets to manage it and have been doing fine. We had a on extra scan on Tuesday just to make sure baby was doing ok after me being so ill and dehydrated but baby is doing really well.

Glad to here you are keeping well Kums17.

I hope everyone else's journeys are going well.

Hey everyone, hope everyone is well

SK88 - oh goodness what a wee journey you have been on already but seems your wee baby is a fighter and not going anywhere! Poor you having hyperemisis, wouldn't wish that on my enemy, hope your feeling better and the rest of your pregnancy is happy and healthy. I doubt any of us would have a pregnancy without worry as IVF makes you so aware of how things can go wrong and how precious a miracle growing a life is, where some people take it for granted! All the best xx

Kums17 - glad to see your pregnancy is going well, hope it flies by for you, how far are you now?

Im 38+2days today, I have been very lucky and have been very healthy throughout, (except heartburn which is so underrated btw and fatigue etc but that's expected)! I have had a regular growth scans from 30 weeks and baby is simmering away nicely, have my next scan on Tuesday and will see the consultant afterwards and may make a plan to be induced.. my bump is very neat although I feel huge, I am still managing to walk my dogs a couple of miles each day and do housework etc but get tired so easily which I hope being active will help in labour, also still going to my pregnancy yoga which is great practice for breathing control and relaxation, I highly recommend this!!

Well I hope the next time I check in here I will have to some happy baby news to announce!!

Never give up faith, IVF is the most challenging hardest thing I have ever done in my life and after seven transfers, 4 miscarriages, 2 negatives (not to mention our previous miscarriages) and then our little miracle. It can test you, bring out emotions and a pain in your heart you never thought possible, but when it goes right it is the best feeling in the world. It can be so hard seeing family and friends moving on with their lives, having children, pregnancy/birth announcements etc, each one I read was like a knife in the heart. I changed my outlook and was determined it was going to be next, I manifested and changed my mindset to positive and I believed it happened.

Speak soon and sending lots of positive babies vibes xxx
I am blessed beyond measures.

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Monday, November 26th 2018, 6:16pm

Hi ladies,

It’s lovely to hear all of your good news. Bambi, what a great attitude to adopt. It really is amazing how somehow you just get some inner strength from somewhere! I’m trying my best to follow your example and believe my time will come too. I hope that all goes well for you when bubba comes! Kums and SK88, nice to hear that you are both getting on well with your pregnancies. Sorry to hear you’ve been so poorly, SK88. You’ve had a right time of it so fingers crossed it’s plain sailing for you from now on.

I REALLY hope you don’t mind me saying this but I’m a little worried that going into detail on appointments, buying baby things etc is going to cause upset for some folk. I’ve gotten used to it as I have so many babies/pregnancies around me so you have to be strong but for some, forums like this are their one place of escape. The last thing I want is to make you feel that you can’t have these conversations but maybe on one of the other pages with other ladies who are now preparing for baby’s arrival? Sharing your success stories is a different matter though as they provide hope and obviously you ladies have been through it and so you are a huge wealth of knowledge for us too!

I debated over saying anything so hope I’ve done the right thing. I really didn’t mean to offend and know none of this will have been intended. I just know that when I’ve really been at rock bottom, any litttle thing was so upsetting and this forum can be such an amazing source of support.

Xx

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Tuesday, November 27th 2018, 1:10pm

To be honest Scottishgirl I have been a member of this page for almost 3 years, I have had a long emotional ivf journey and yet I am still here to come on and try and let what has happened to me bring some relief or encouragement to others. So for me to come on a give a wee update every couple of months I think you are out of line for saying so, I’m not here every other day rubbing peoples faces in, if you can’t be genuinely happy for someone who has went through something similar to what you are going through then that’s your problem. I do get what you mean but it is still part of our IVF journey and my appointment update I wrote are related to having IVF treatment and ongoing journey.

I have seen a lot of girls previously updating their news and we have all been genuinely happy for them because we know what we have all gone through and reading the positive stories that IVF can work should be taken with joy not bitterness! If we can’t be happy and support each other in times of happiness and sadness what is the page all about then??!!

Wish you all the best I won’t be updatiing anymore as for the first time this page has made me feel not welcome.
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Tuesday, November 27th 2018, 7:20pm

Oh I’m so sorry it’s made you feel that way! I didn’t at all mean that you shouldn’t update us with how you are getting on or share your good news. I genuinely didn’t mean that and like to hear all the positive stories of IVF success. I just meant certain specific conversations of preparing for baby might cause upset if people are on here looking for comfort having just had a miscarriage or another failed attempt.


I did not mean to cause personal offence. I think I’ve become protective of people in this situation having supported other close friends through this journey and now being on the road myself. The last thing I want to do is make people feel that they can’t speak on here and I’m sorry if that’s what I’ve done. It certainly isn’t what I intended.

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Wednesday, November 28th 2018, 10:49am

I felt bad reading Scottishgirl's comment and was desperately looking for how I could delete my post, unfortunately, this forum doesn't allow that. So if I have offended anyone with my post, please accept my apologies . As for me, I would never be upset with anyone's good news no matter what I am currently going through, though I know some people do not have that attitude and that's what differentiates us because we can never be the same.

I quite understand both part, but we should remember that this forum is quite different and we are more like a family even though we have never met each other. And as a family we should mourn with those who are mourning and rejoice without holding back with those who are rejoicing because I believe, everyone's time will surely come. If we post only sad news of miscarriages and failed IVF, then we will be saddists, if we move on to other forums, not everyone understands the path we have been through and we won't also be looking back at this forum to render help when needed and if we can't be happy with people's joyous news or details especially when they have been through this path, then I see no reasons for the forum.

Now we know, some people might not like seeing the happy post and we will take that on board. However, please let's put what has happened behind us and let's share our news either good or bad. We are all here to help each other.

Bambi please don't feel unwelcomed, please let's know when your baby arrives.

Scottishgirl, please don't feel bad even though your comment didn't go down well with us.

I hope everyone is doing well, at least as well as they can? Wishing you all a great day.
I am blessed beyond measures.

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Wednesday, November 28th 2018, 6:14pm

I can see both points in this and was unsure if I should post my previous post about being unwell as didn't want it to come across like I was complaining, obviously I wouldn't have it any other way, I know we are truly blessed to have got to this point.

It was not something I had ever considered before that I could be ill as I had never really let myself believe I would get this far. I decided to post about being ill and baby being ok with the thought that maybe someone else would read it and get hope from the fact the we have got this far and also that if anyone else has the same symptoms as me don't panic as I had got myself in some right states worrying about everything.

I hope I did not cause any offence with my post and that like Kums17 said we can all move forward and continue to support each other as this forum has been such a good place for me to come and read others stories and ask advice.

Take care everyone and I hope everyone is doing good where ever they are on their journey.

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Thank you all for your replies. I know we have all been through so much and this is such an emotive topic. It’s so hard for tone to come across as intended in text. I don’t fully know how to put into words what I want to say but I hope this expresses it clearly and without causing any further hurt.

1. I wholeheartedly agree that we should be sharing tales of joy and sorrow on here. I think we should be able to celebrate with each other and I genuinely have been coming on here hoping and praying for good news from the journeys of those I’ve been following: that all is well with baby or that a long awaited test was positive. Nor have I felt bitter when people have shared their good news, quite the opposite and I can honestly say that’s the truth.

2. Even if someone is now pregnant and others are not at that stage, why should we not feel able to be truthful about being unwell? We can’t help being ill or just feeling poorly and exhausted and it’s comforting to hear that someone on here cares.

3. My comment was not intended as a critique of what people had written although reading it back I can completely see why it would be read that way. If I’m honest, I was more fearful of the comments progressing to chats back and forth about buying things for baby or lots on baby scans and I was imagining how I’d have felt coming on here after just losing a baby. I’ve experienced this so much through friends who don’t know and who I don’t feel able to tell and reading posts on places like this during those times had brought me comfort. I desperately wanted to protect anyone from feeling how I had. It wasn’t at all that I didn’t want you to share your success stories as I think we all need to hear that. To believe that one day it can be us.

4. When I said about having the chat on another page, I only meant to share your excitement of getting ready for baby’s arrival, buying all the lovely things etc. I was not referring to sharing your stories or how you are getting on in your pregnancy. I realise looking back I did not express this clearly.

All I can say is my intent was to protect people from further pain. Not to make anyone feel unwelcome or that your joy is not shared. It would be a pretty horrible world if we could not be happy for each other, especially on a forum like this. Kums, your comment that we are all a family is a lovely one. I only feel wish I could make Bambi feel like she can post on here and not be unwelcome but there’s nothing else I can really say now so I won’t say more.

Take care, all, and best wishes,

Scottish girl x

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Thursday, November 29th 2018, 12:22pm

KUMS17 - I will update you by private mail when the time comes.
Seven transfers later..

Baby bambi due December 7th baby2

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Hey everyone - disclaimer ~ post contains happy news.
After several private messages to share my news I decided my baby deserves his moment in time and so do I after enduring 3 years of IVF.
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Our precious baby boy was born on Monday December 3rd at 4.19am after a very short 3 1/2 hour labour on only gas and air and shitloads of determination and I was that impatient to meet him I pushed that hard and quick!
His name is Ethan and was 7lb 11oz.

In true Bambi style nothing can run smoothly.. I was unaware that I was bleeding out excessively straight after Ethan was born and my placenta failed to deliver naturally and I was losing major blood, a team sprung into action out of the woodwork and I was soon whisked away for emergency surgery to remove the placenta and had received blood transfusions and later iron infusions. My poor other Half left standing holding the baby in an empty labour suite plastered in blood. Surgery was a success but afterwards I was very poorly, severely anemic and the first couple of days of motherhood were a blur, a struggle as all my veins had collapsed in my arms and I could hardly lift them to lift Ethan to feed him as I was wanting to breastfeed, I couldn’t sit or position myself due to weakness and he wasn’t getting all he needed. He was developing jaundice as wasn’t getting enough fluids, as I couldn’t support him to long to feed him I sat up all night and squeezed and syringes every drop of colostrum I could get out of me and fed it to him. Wednesday morning I woke up and said I need home, so I found the strength had a shower and sat up when doctors came and begged them to let me home so they did. All the way home I felt like a failure as I had already let down our long awaited for baby, we arrived home and I decided to try my new pump to see if I could still stimulate and then all of a sudden my milk had came in and we have been making such progress every since. I have had amazing support from my local midwife team who fitted me with a nipple shield and aids to help feed while I recover.

NHS really iare amazing I have them to thank for helping me get pregnant, them to thank for delivering my son safely and them to thank for saving my life so I can enjoy my brand new baby son. And also those who donated the blood.

Wish you all a happy ending soon ~ we will be back for your our last remaining frozen embryo

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Baby bambi due December 7th baby2

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Yesterday, 7:34am

Congratulations Bambi85, love your baby boys name!

You have been through a hard few days but you have your beautiful son at home!

Enjoy and take care xx

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Yesterday, 2:32pm

Congratulations Bambi!

So glad to hear you and Ethan are doing well after all that!

Take care x

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Yesterday, 3:25pm

Congratulations bambi so good to hear your good news.it has lifted my spirt and gave me hope that some day i could be as lucky as you.enjoy every moment.

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Congratulations Bambi...welcome to your precious wee boy. So sorry you had a tough start to motherhood but glad things have started to work out xx

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