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Wednesday, November 25th 2015, 3:10pm

Adopting with a biological child

Any advice on adopting a child when you already have a biological child would be much appreciated, anything good and bad I would like to hear

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Thursday, November 26th 2015, 3:17pm

I have no advice but will be watching this closely xx

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Thursday, November 26th 2015, 5:06pm

Thanks ct

We had a lovely social worker out to see us yesterday and coming back next week to see us.

Will update my diary soon.

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Thursday, November 26th 2015, 6:03pm

Hi sasha,
I don't have any advice either but sounds exciting wishing u luck
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Friday, November 27th 2015, 8:31am

Hi I cannot advise on Adopting with a biological child - I can however say that Adoption is a beautiful thing & although I had a rollercoaster of a journey we couldn't be happier with our little family.

There can feel like alot of hoops to jump through but it will all be worth it - we feel blessed everyday.

Wishing you all the best for your journey xxx

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 9:51am

Thank you Wardie, am I right in saying your fostering to adopt ds?

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 1:55pm

Yes we have adopted our DD but are fostering to adopt DS well if all goes according to plan.....

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 4:40pm

That's fab, I enquired about fostering to adopt and was told I couldn't as we both work is that the case? I'm assuming it will all depend on circumstances and different areas.

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 4:44pm

Fostering to adopt is a unique scenario really! We are only able to do it because it was part of the 'package' when we were taking on our DD & I'm on adoption leave! Otherwise we would have to do concurrency normally to have a newborn.

Our situation is so rare they have had to take each step at a time as they haven't had anyone do what we are doing!!! Normally there is a larger gap between siblings!!!!

I would imagine you would have to be a full time foster Carer to normally do what we are doing! We did have to be approved as temporary foster carers while legal proceedings take place.

Hope that makes sense.

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 7:31pm

Thanks Wardie that makes perfect sense, I think we just hoped if we could foster to adopt we would get a baby or close to a baby, but due to ds only being 3 she said we would get a child under 1 so there was an age gap, you must be so chuffed to now be a mummy of two.

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Friday, November 27th 2015, 7:58pm

Yes it is Amazing have to pinch myself everyday loving every minute even the night feeds lol!!!

I look forward to hearing all about your journey xxx

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Tuesday, May 29th 2018, 3:47pm

Hey. I think it is amazing to have another baby. Every woman wants a biological baby. I think this is wonderful. But I think adoption is not an option. I dont want you to change your mind but that is just my views. I think I would prefer surrogacy over adoption. Through surrogacy, you can have a genetic baby. I had some maternity issues. I lost my unborn babies. I went to a clinic in Europe for surrogacy. I chose surrogacy for me. It was convenient to go there. I never wanted to adopt a baby. I am not against adoption but I never wanted to bring up someone else baby. I wanted to have a biological baby. Now I am happy I chose it.

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Tuesday, May 29th 2018, 4:15pm

Have you thought about surrogacy? Why do you want to go for adoption? I personally think the better idea would be to go for surrogacy. Simply because the child will be related to you! Wouldn't you rather have that option instead of adoption? I personally would. I hope you're successful with whatever you choose, though.

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Tuesday, May 29th 2018, 4:19pm

Hello. I think it is astonishing to have another infant. I think this is great. Yet, I think adoption isn't an alternative. I dont need you to alter your opinion however that is only my perspectives. I figure I would lean toward surrogacy over the selection. Through surrogacy, you can have a genetic child. I had some maternity issues. I have infertility for 10 years. I went to a clinic in Europe for surrogacy. I picked surrogacy for me. It was helpful to go there. I never needed to embrace an infant. I am not against adoption but rather I never want to raise another person infant. Presently I am upbeat I picked it.

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Tuesday, May 29th 2018, 6:42pm

Seriously serra111 please stop commenting on forums that are clearly not going anymore, you clearly have little to do with your time!!!

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