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Hi,

I am incredibly blessed with two lovely daughters both from fresh ICSI cycles but would love-love-love to have even more! Sadly the only option for us is yet another ICSI and we have no frozen embryos either. Although my husband said that originally he wanted 3 kids under the circumstances he is happy with what he have and doesn't want to "tempt fate". I know that our cycles were really hard on him especially our failed one. I also know we are on high now after the last success and would not be nice to stop after a failure. Still I would like to give it a chance at least and I am even willing to try more than once.

It would be great to hear some success stories or opinions.

Gemma if you read this I know you have two kids and succesfully donated your eggs since so that counts as a success story for me.

I am also trying to find out what's the reason for me wanting more children. As in my low moments I already feel incredibly guilty and selfish for the two we have. Why to create new life when it will end one day? Why to bring new beings into the world when they will inevitably suffer? I do hope my children will be mostly happy but there is no denying life is unfair and there is too much suffering out there.

Rianon

Thanks Polly and so great news about your pregnancy. Have you always wanted more? Even as a kid? As a kid I thought I will have two as that was the model I saw. Most of my friends were from families of four (2 parents, 2 kids).

Will you want even more?

xx

Hi Ladies,

Thanks for the reassurance that I am not being crazy and it's ok and not so selfish to want more. Poor DH I am constantly reminding him I just told him today I am not buying a car as I want more children instead.

Polly I am so glad you feel complete now. It always melts my heart when I read a birth announcement and it is also added: "my family is now complete". I hope all goes well with pregnancy and labour.

Biggreeneyes: I can see you are PUPO now so really hope this is it. I wonder why Polly said odds are stacked against you but I just hope you beat those ugly odds.

hmcfeather I am glad to hear you are going to go for your frozen embies I would hate the thought of some lovely embryos being perished. If truth be told I am a little envious too but only in the good way. Some couples donate them though I am not sure I could do that. A long time ago I promised I would give a chance to all of our embies. Little did I know that we will never have frosties to consider. Oh complications sound scary what were those? Hope you heal soon. How many siblings does your DH have?

I am still unsure but feel rushed as if we do try again I would like to cycle in spring and for that I would need to stop breastfeeding soon. I already hate myself for stopping BF so soon for my older daughter and keep wondering when will that guilt lift. I would love it to just stop naturally (and for that matter try naturally). I can't even tell if I would regret not having more kids in years to come as I might be able to fill my life with something else as I have many other hopes and dreams too but children feels the strongest at the moment. And of course enjoy my lovely daughters regardless whether they have more siblings or not.

Thanks again and love to all xx Rianon