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Hi everyone,

I am new here and this is my first post. My husband and I have a four-year-old boy and we have been trying for a second child for nearly two years with no luck. I was struggling with this a lot last year as I expected to fall pregnant within a few months (I also had two friends who started trying for seconds just after us -- one has now given birth and one is about to). Last year I was doing ovulation tests which I found even more stressful as I expected to be pregnant each month, having known we'd had sex at exactly the right time of the month. So I stopped using them because I found they made the pressure very intense.

Since then I've felt more stable about it all, but lately I'm starting to waver again. Some months I'm philosophical about it all and when my period arrives I think "never mind, it'll happen when it's meant to", but other months I feel VERY low when my period comes -- I can't look at pregnant women in the shops, etc. I don't want to get obsessive about it but I can see myself starting to slip down that slope. So my question is, what coping strategies does anyone use to try and stay on an emotional even keel?

I almost feel like I want to forget that we're trying. People who know we're trying keep saying "you just need to stop thinking about it" and I get so frustrated with them because I try SO hard not to think about it all the time but within the week or so when you know your period is due, then when it's sometimes a day or two late, and when it does arrive, you can't block out all those thoughts that run through your head.

On a medical side, I've had a blood test that indicates my hormone levels for ovulation are all as they should be. I am now waiting to go in for a scan in a couple of weeks to check for fibroids, and my husband is waiting for a letter that will give him an appointment for his sperm test.

Thank you for reading; I'd appreciate any words of advice or chat.

Jess x