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chalmers206

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Tuesday, October 26th 2010, 11:01pm

how soon?

hi,


Just wondered how soon did everyone wait before trying for baby no2.
TJ will be 7 months next week and ideally we wanted to wait till he was 2 but now we are considering trying again after christmas, do you think this is too soon?.
Will my body have recovered properly?
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THOMAS JOHN (TJ) BORN 22/4/10
DEC 2012 :BFP:
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Wednesday, October 27th 2010, 7:24pm

Hiya

Gave birth 08/08 last year and then started down regging on 29/12. Managed to get pregnant but unfortunately I miscarried at 6 weeks. Then did another round as soon as practically possible and now 19 weeks preggers with twins.

My main reason for trying again so quickly was my age but I see that's not an issue for you as you are a lot younger than me. I must say I'm now rather apprehensive about having 3 under 18 months, but beggars can't be choosers! Plus it was my decision to put 2 back due to it being my 7th transfer, so maybe consider transferring one at a time....
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BFP (Fresh 2 x day 5 blasties + aspirin) TWINS DUE MARCH 2011

chalmers206

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Wednesday, October 27th 2010, 10:51pm

hi viv,

thanks for your reply. sorry to hear about your loss, that must have been hard.

Congratulations on the twins, i agree that will be crazy having 3 kids under 18 months but i am sure you will manage just fine xx
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Monday, November 1st 2010, 10:05am

Hi Chalmers

I think its a really individual and personal decision. I wanted a small gap between my children but ended up with 3 1/2 years and its worked really well for us (plus am just so grateful that I have 2 children!) so it doesn't really matter I don't think.

Did you have a c-section? A lot of doctors recommend waiting a year before trying again - mine did.

And money's a consideration too (unfortunately!) for most people - can you afford another period of maternity leave now or would you be better off financially waiting a while etc.

Good luck whatever you decided to do.

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Monday, November 1st 2010, 3:51pm

I know what you mean, Kat, we are thinking of starting again too as we have 4 embryos waiting for us. We are allowed to have these implanted as part of our last ICSI but I know others don't get this opportunity and have to pay.
Will you be having to pay for the treatment next time? That is also a consideration. We realise there are no guarantees with the FET that we hope for and we haven't as yet discussed what we would do in terms of how we would find the cash if we decided to go on. A friend of mine and I were talking and she was suggesting that I should think about how far I am prepared to go this time.
Part of me says I would stop if we were unsuccessful but then that does nothing for the desire I have for having another child. That said, I never forget just how lucky I am in having my wee girl and if we never have any more, we got so much more than we were led to believe was possible at one time.
I guess many of us wonder how we would feel if we didn't try again.
I am scared of how we will feel if it doesn't work too as I remember as clear as day how frightened we were when we waited to hear the outcome of our 2nd ICSI. I remember saying to DH that day that if it had been a BFN, then I wasn't sure I could put us through it all again.
As the others have been talking about, there are the other financial considerations to consider - if we have another, we will probably manage for afew months living here and then have to move. If we were expecting twins or more, we would have to move house immediately and probably to a less decent area which means a different school for the children than what we had hoped for, fewer opportunities to have money to use in educating them, socialising them, etc.
With another, I would probably not be able to go back to work or have to work every weekend and evening to avoid paying for childcare. I work evenings and weekends at the moment but business is variable and it's not vital that I bring in a set amount every month just now.
Like Vivvy, I am getting older now too and so the time I have is a bit more limited and if we do have anymore, I want to be young enough to enjoy being with them.
Loads and loads to consider isn't there? To be honest, I have thought of nothing else since Annalise was born and the urge gets stronger for me. I have told DH how I feel and he is supportive of me which is wonderful - I know not all DHs and partners feel the same. I am going with my gut feelings but with my eyes open to reality and we can only wait and see.
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Monday, November 1st 2010, 5:09pm

hi lisa and pootle,

thanks for your replies.

Yes it certainly is a lot to consider, we would have to pay the treatment oursleves, so thats the main factor. I would do egg sharing again but it still costs £1000 so we would need to save up.
Also like you lisa we would have to move as well as we only live in a 2 bedroom house and thats small eonough for us the now never mind having another 1 or more kids.
We also get our house rent free as its part of dhs job, so if we had to move we would need to start apying rnt and he would los a big part of his income ( he does 24hour standby cover).
We have had a wee chat and decided to wait for now, and if we dont have any more then i am the same i am eternally grateful for my wee darling TJ, he completes us xx
2ND ES/ICSI AUG 09 = :BFP
THOMAS JOHN (TJ) BORN 22/4/10
DEC 2012 :BFP:
ONE BEAUTIFUL [zx076] SEEN 9/1/13




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