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Saturday, March 6th 2010, 4:22pm

Episiotomy questions!

Hello,

I am healing after a big cut but they have taken my stitches out and are leaving it to heal on its own. The midwife has said that it is likely that I'll need it fixing in a few months. I just wondered if anyone else has been through this?

Does anyone know how long it will take to heal? And what they do when they repair me?! I'm guessing that they'll cut me again and re do it.

The midwife said that I won't know how its healed until we have sex. I'm actually dreading this cos I'm scared its going to be so different to before. She said that even though is is going to be a cosmetic thing I don't want to have any flappy bits or anything like that down there.

I can feel my pelvic floor and can stop peeing mid pee which I guess is a good sign. I'm not leaking any pee either. And its not bleeding as much. It was bleeding constantly when the stitches were in.

The midwife said that I do have a vaginal opening and then the cut which is open, you can see the muscles though.

Has anyone else had this? Will it be ok? I'm just a bit worried about it all.






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Sunday, March 7th 2010, 10:01am

Hey Flic,

Sorry your having this worry. I also had an episiotomy but have been ok after it - although i will be honest and say im still too scared / shattered to try BD.
I do have a friend though that also had one and had to go in for 'reconstruction' as it didnt heal properly, they discovered the problem when attemping to BD for the first time, but once it was all sorted she was absolutwly fine and now has a second baby. The op just involved them 'fixing' and 'tidying' everything up but caused no problems long term.
Im sure you will also be ok



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Sunday, March 7th 2010, 10:21am

Hi Flic,

I had a 2nd degree tear (not as bad as your one) and I opted to let it heal naturally without stitches. It was OK at the 6 week marker but didn't really heal properly for another 2/3 weeks. I have been left with a small ridge of scar tissue but you can't really feel it unless your looking for it. If it lines up nicely (as mine did) then it should heal on its own but it might take 10 weeks or more depending on the size as it heals from the inside out. I'm not sure why the mw said you can't tell if its healed until you have sex as they can tell if it healed, if it's fully together, not painful, no longer red and stays together when gently pulled apart then it's healed!


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Sunday, March 7th 2010, 11:20am

Hi,

Thanks for that. I feel a bit more reassured now.

Grace, the miwdife did say that it was lining up so hopefully it will heal ok.

And Jane - Thanks for the info about your friend, its good to know that they can just 'reconstruct' it and it will be ok.

Feel a bit more positive. To be honest I'm pleased to just be out of pain and be able to sit down, all be it it hurts but once I'm comfy its ok.

Think I got a bit paranoid that I'd end up with a huge hole!!






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Monday, March 8th 2010, 8:36am

Flic, just wanted to share that a friend of mine had a nasty tear with her first baby. She healed reasonably quickly but noticed once she started BD'ing again that all was not quite right. Unfortunately it was discovered that the doc who stitched her up handn't done such a good job, so they booked her in for cosmetic reconstruction and just re-cut, removed a bit of old scar tissue and re-stitiched properly. She was healed within a couple of weeks and went on to have 2 more children! Apparently it's a fairly simple procedure and of course you don't feel a thing this time around!

Hope things heal for you properly though and you don't need to have it done again



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Monday, March 8th 2010, 9:16am

Thanks Claire, thats reassuring. The scary thing is it was a cons who delivered Tilly and cut me and stitched me!! (not my own cons, but still!)

In a way I'd like it to heal quick so we can bd and find out whats going on!! Is that a bit wrong!?

Its good to know that its quite simple.






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Monday, March 8th 2010, 9:22am

I think that you're bits are really swollen and bruised after delivery so it's harder for them to get it right. Obviously when you go in for your repair you won't have all that so it will be 1. easier and 2. less painful (I hope!!!!)

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Monday, March 8th 2010, 9:36am

Phiippa, I never though about them being swollen or anything. I guess that makes sense really. They would be swollen after having forceps and ventouse stuffed in there and then a baby pulled out!!

The this is it is sooooo much less painful now the stitches are out. Its actually amazing. I do still need the painkillers but they do actually take the edge off now and enable me to sit down and do stuff. Plus I can let the midwife touch it and not scream in agony which is great!!






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