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Wednesday, October 14th 2009, 8:46pm

Author: scoobi

all mended and happy

Firstly, thankyou for your kind replies... I havnt logged on for quite some time and reading through what I wrote brought back some vivid memories.. BUT.. thats what they are, memories, the past. I have been through a tough time BUT here I am typing on my PC in my new house, watching what I want on tele knowing my beautiful little girl is sleeping soundly and happily upstairs. Im smiling as I write this. There really is light at the end of the tunnel and maybe, just maybe things happen for a rea...

Friday, December 5th 2008, 9:55pm

Author: scoobi

Adopted together but now on my own

Thankyou. Its just really difficult to tell people. some family members dont know yet. I seem to be coping quite well, in fact I am waiting for it to hit me. maybe it will after the xmas madness is over, maybe this is as bad as it gets... all i can do is take one day at a time. My little girl went to bed last night and shouted down while she was laid in bed.. 'I Love You Mummy' Thats what it is all about! XX

Friday, December 5th 2008, 9:14am

Author: scoobi

Adopted together but now on my own

Myself and my husband have had our adopted little girl for over 18 months now... it seems like she has always been with us. She is a diamond. A few weeks ago I received a bombshell... My husband has been unhappy for a while... Basically he has left and has been living at his mums. He has probably spent more quality time with our little girl since and I am handling it ok. I have a very strong support network around me. Our little girl is oblivious apart from asking when daddy is coming home from ...

Friday, June 22nd 2007, 8:09pm

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

Thanks Mrs Smiff! Think Matchin' Panel will be brought forward by a week. Everyone is keen on getting things moving. Good news! PANIC!!! No, its great, met up with the little ones social worker, and gonna meet with foster carers next week! Come to the conclusion we will have to manage on bear minimum from work. They are only gonna pay 1 week! BUT WE DONT CARE!! HA HA! We are not gonna let it get to us. We will never have any money, accepted that. But we will, with any luck have a very wanted and...

Monday, June 18th 2007, 10:40am

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

The little girl is under 16 months. It is so easy to get excited and carried away when they match you, but i suppose we are still selling ourselves. Her social worker has to agree that we are right for her! It never really dawned on me that she might not want us! MUST keep our feet on the ground!!! I have found out that my company is offering 1 week at full pay then just basic stat. adoption pay. Thats Rubbish. DH gets 2 weeks 'paternity'! I am trying to find out about other companies and organi...

Wednesday, June 13th 2007, 10:47pm

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

Cheers, will keep fam' tax credit in mind. Thanx for the info. have saved it in a file to refer to a little further down the line. There is so much to think about. I honestly thought that adoption leave was the same as maternity leave. Cant believe there didn't used to be any payment at all!! We have read all the orders but they are complicated. Maybe it is just my company. Women are new in the job! They have only just got their heads around pregnancy let alone adoption!!! Good idea about a pred...

Wednesday, June 13th 2007, 8:05pm

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

I am hoping i will be told tomorrow that i get the same as maternity. That would be great, otherwise our camper will have to be sold.... Gutted!!! But worth it!! How far into the adoption process are you, louise?

Wednesday, June 13th 2007, 5:05pm

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

thanks everyone for helping out. My work are dragging their heels, dont think anyone knows what to do. I work in a predominently male environment!!! I have sussed out child benefit - 18.10 and adoption pay 112.75 and i have been told about claiming 'working family tax credit' but i cannot find any info on it. I need to know if there is a qualifying pay limit, so if anyone has claimed it, can you give me some info? We should have pepared better but i think we were so scared of not passing panel t...

Wednesday, June 13th 2007, 4:08pm

Author: scoobi

paid adoption leave

We have been approved to adopt a girl or boy between 0 - 4 years. This happened on 24th may 07. We have just had a chat with our social workers and we have a potential match. WOW! Perfect!!! I am now worried about what we are entitled to as adoption pay. I am waiting for a phonecall from payroll at work and i have read the adoption order from work but it seems so unclear. It all changed this april. I was wondering if anyone else has taken adoption leave and i also wondered if any companies make ...

Friday, December 15th 2006, 10:25am

Author: scoobi

Been away for a while!

we're taking the boys and their 14 yr old cousin ski-ing in march. Its been booked for ages so we were never really in a rush because we cant do anything until after that anyway. It seemed so long until march, but now its only a few months away and we dont really seem any nearer! It is quite exiting though, not really knowing what little bundle we might get! If im completely honest, not bothered really, as long as we get one!!! Thats what J (oldest stepson) said when I asked both of them "what a...

Tuesday, December 12th 2006, 9:33pm

Author: scoobi

Been away for a while!

I know how you feel ronan,after our experience (not quite as long as you) I just want a little person to look after! My youngest stepson was 4 when i met my husband, a baby really. I cannot believe how fast he has grown up. He used to love coming a walk with me and the dog, and helping mein the kitchen but now he sits on the settee with his older brother watching football. I think thats why i would like a younger child. Time goes so quickly and i want to get as much out of their childhood as pos...

Tuesday, December 12th 2006, 9:24pm

Author: scoobi

Books! which books are best?

Thanks, I will try and get hold of a couple of those X

Monday, December 11th 2006, 9:36pm

Author: scoobi

Books! which books are best?

Has anyone read any books prior to adopting?

Monday, December 11th 2006, 9:12pm

Author: scoobi

Been away for a while!

I feel so much better today. Its amazing how good it is just to get things off your chest. A good nights sleep and its a different me today. Thanks for your message kylie, i've sent u a reply! how long were you going through the process before you went to panel? And did you specify an age and sex? I see it took 6 months or so for you to get your wish, did it feel like you were waiting for a lifetime? we were originally thinking 4-6 boy or girl but now, if we have the opportunity i think i would ...

Sunday, December 10th 2006, 4:32pm

Author: scoobi

Been away for a while!

Feels good to be back! Im not great with the computer but its good to log on from time to time, just to see Im not the only one feeling this way! None of my friends understand. At the moment Im struggling a bit. Keep fighting back the tears. My brother got married sept this year and they are already 9 weeks pregnant. His wife already has a boy from previous relationship. He is 11 and wonderful. Hubbie has 2 boys from previous marriage, 10 and 13. All my friends, apart from 1, all have at least o...

Sunday, December 10th 2006, 10:01am

Author: scoobi

Been away for a while!

Hi, I posted on this site a while ago when myself and hubbie were going through ICSI. Last Christmas we had a pregnancy but by the end of January, sadly it was no more. It was a very confusing and painful time and I think I have only just recently come through it. We have decided to try and adopt. We are going through the 12 weeks of interviews and evidence gathering with our social worker. I feel I am starting to lose hope slightly. Nothing has indicated that we wont be successful but its a ver...

Wednesday, January 4th 2006, 7:46pm

Author: scoobi

Questions, RE doner sperm?

cheers for the info, helps a lot although my head is all over the place at the moment. I think it keeps me sane, looking towards other possibilities. when I feel myself taking a depressing slump, I sit and list all the things Im looking forward to doing this year. seems to work!

Tuesday, January 3rd 2006, 3:14pm

Author: scoobi

Questions, RE doner sperm?

the menopur alone cost £750 with the ICSI. I still have some but its over a year old. dont suppose that would be any good! Been pondering adoption again too. thanx again X

Tuesday, January 3rd 2006, 2:58pm

Author: scoobi

Questions, RE doner sperm?

blimey, I just thought you could use doner sperm without all the drugs. Didn't realise you have to use menopur. Thats the really expensive drug! Thanks kara, something to ponder about while Im on bed rest. XlucyX

Tuesday, January 3rd 2006, 2:51pm

Author: scoobi

Questions, RE doner sperm?

Is it just pesseries you use, twice a day? When you down regged, is that injections? and what is used to 'stimulate'? Sorry, just got loads of questions!




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