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Monday, February 18th 2013, 10:21pm

Author: Marlene

How long did you wait before moving on from IVF to Adoption?

HI Hope Firstly good luck...... we had our final egg donation transfer in August 2007, and started the adoption journey February 2008.... we definately needed the 6 month break to initailly feel adoption was the right way forward.... thinking back now I totally needed that time xx

Monday, March 5th 2012, 10:00pm

Author: Marlene

VAs versus LAs

Hi Saffy We chose a VA over all the LAs in our consortium where we live on the basis of the professionalism they presented to us when we enquired. We did attend a couple of info evenings at the local LAs, but having sent out 25+ emails to LAs within a certain mile radiuus I had no repsonses if they did respond it was no use. We have just been approved for the 2nd time and again with a VA.... totally great experience... whilst sometimes being frustrating overall really good . Definately attend in...

Wednesday, February 22nd 2012, 3:04pm

Author: Marlene

adoption medical

Hi Lynsey Sorry to hear about your previous expereinces, but please dont feel that "adoption" is all that is left now. Honestly the opportunity that you can give to a child/children through adoption is a magical thing to do and I know cause I have failed IVF & egg donation and we sat down and discussed why we wanted to be a family .. this helped us come to terms with not having biological children but reasons far greater than I ever expected. at the moment you probably feel that this journey is ...

Wednesday, November 9th 2011, 8:22pm

Author: Marlene

Adoption Scotland

Hi Optimistic I didnt want to read and run, but I havent adopted in Scotland, but I have adopted a little girl and now half way through journey number 2. I hope someone comes along who has. if you have any questions, I will help you as much as possible Marlene x

Saturday, October 8th 2011, 10:48pm

Author: Marlene

No adoption if own child is under 5?

Hi I believe the reasons they want a good gap between the childrens ages is due to the complex nature of a child coming to you through adoption. Most children who come through the care system have delayed emotionalbehaviour and some have developmental delay so it is imperative that if you already have a child their needs would be different to what your adopted childs would be. Time needs to be totally invested in getting the new child to attach and build a relationship with an already establishe...

Friday, June 3rd 2011, 10:03pm

Author: Marlene

adoption medical

Hi Mole Our medical took ab out 30 mins each. The doctor fills out a Tick box exercise type questionaire which I think from memory we took with us ( or I dropped down there a couple of days before). Its all what Mcflozzer has said and generally about your health now and any conditions which have occured which may be ongoing. We had to pay for ours but I cannot remember how much, guessing it was about £50 each?? Good luck xxxx

Wednesday, March 16th 2011, 9:16pm

Author: Marlene

Not been on for ages..... but am pg with ID twins so thought I could maybe learn a little x x x

Helllooo Lady luck ... its me ... ( Flipper).... So lovely to see your news and Chloe is just gorgeous... How exciting ID twin girls.... and so happy youve found a wonderful man to take care of all your lovely girls..... I have a wonderful daughter through adoption , coming up 2 years now in June ... xxx take care

Tuesday, March 15th 2011, 7:20pm

Author: Marlene

IVF at Edinburgh ACU Little France

Hello gorgeous I am afraid I donot know the naswer to your question but just wanted to say, hope it comes through soon qand I will keep everything crossed and hope you have a really positive experience Please please we must cdatch up SOOOONNNNNNNNNN xxxx

Monday, March 7th 2011, 9:28pm

Author: Marlene

sorry to hear....

Hi Jelly- Bean So sorry t hear your Dh does not want to pursue the journey. Is there any possibility that maybe in a few months and after going to maybe an info evening he may have a change of heart just to hear more ? It is a massive step to commit to going through it and he may just feel very scared of the thought that someone elses child could be his, it is really difficult to get your head round. I really hope in the future he may think actually it is the right thing to do. Take care Jelly B...

Monday, March 7th 2011, 9:14pm

Author: Marlene

Adoption...and looking for all info possible

Hi Billie Just wanted to pop into say Hellooooooo. Your family are only involved if they are your references ( they would be interviewed.) Other involvment would be in a verbal way, as part of home study you would go through a section about family and your life , this just forms a part of the "profile" that they build up to get a big picture of you and hubbys life, what your beliefs values are.... thats the long bit of the process for most. If you need a testimonial pop into my diary Billie, I c...

Tuesday, February 15th 2011, 10:04pm

Author: Marlene

info about adoption

Hi Jelly-Bean I really cannot add anything to lovely calypsos post, a great load of fab information. We went through a VA on the basis of not having much joy from our consortium of LAs where I live. Our daughter was 4yr 5 months when she came into placement with us. If you want need any info about our journey regarding process etc feel free to ask either PM me or ask in here .. good luck xxx

Thursday, January 27th 2011, 4:04pm

Author: Marlene

wanting to start adption

Hi Penny I agree totally what calypso has told you , honesty up front is so so important. During the home study visits, your whole life is discussed and viewed and it is all about building a profile of you so the SWs get a big picture of you as a couple , what values, beliefs, what you can offer and whether you can sup[port a child who has had a pretty grim start in life. Sometimes I felt god is this worth it ... and by god it was, we now have beautfiul 6 yr old girl, who has completed our famil...

Friday, January 7th 2011, 5:36pm

Author: Marlene

So Confused

Hi Kerrieann First of all please can I say how sorry I am to hear about your previous treatments. My situation in brief was at the age of 38-43 I had 5 cycles trying with my own eggs, couple of cycles were abandoned couple the embryos had no cleavage and 1 cycle which had implantation I got a negative reslut. We then went to Kiev, in the Ukraine and had 2 cycles of Egg donation , again those did not turn into any pregnancies.... we then found ourselves looking at why we wanted a family andf sat ...

Sunday, November 28th 2010, 12:04am

Author: Marlene

Adoption journey to begin?

Hi Rachel... Having gone with an agency, we were initially under the impression that "our child" maybe older, have more difficulties to deal with than other children placed by LAs, however our beauty was only 4 but to maintain her secuity needed a "faraway placement ", this could be a factor why children are placed through an agency . Agencies do not have any children in their care, they work with the LAs to find a suitable family for the children in the care system.xx

Wednesday, November 24th 2010, 9:46pm

Author: Marlene

Adoption journey to begin?

Hi Rachel Just wanted to pop in and reconfirm what lovely calypso has said. I totally agree with being just very open & honest as when home study starts this really starts to look at you two individually , those around you and build aprofile about you to get to know you thoroughly. They will look at how you deal with situations and emotional issues, so just be you. They will totally understand the emotions about your mums illness and will want you to let them know how your dealing with this. Hop...

Thursday, November 4th 2010, 9:20pm

Author: Marlene

ITV TONIGHT - 7.30PM 'ADOPTION CRISIS'

Interesting programme. It is bizarre but when we applied over 2 years ago we did enquire to 25 LAs not just one ( ealing being one ), and at least 5 did not require white british couples due to the children they had in their care system at that time, so we just kept contacting different LAs, NOT one of them suggested going abroad. We have so very many children here that need safe permanent homes in the uk. True to say , there are not so many babies up for adoption especially abandoned in the UK ...

Thursday, November 4th 2010, 3:50pm

Author: Marlene

ITV TONIGHT - 7.30PM 'ADOPTION CRISIS'

Thanks hun for posting this, will record it xxxx

Sunday, August 15th 2010, 8:03pm

Author: Marlene

Why so negative?

Hi Joeys, firstly welcome to FZ. Sorry its taken me a little while to share my experience, but getting ready for holidays and my daughter won't let me have 5 mins.. Anyway, we started ringing LAs in DSec 07, having finally decided that adoption was right for us,I emailed or/and called around 15-20 LAs in a 30 mile radius !!! not one of them would take us on weither due to "not out of treatment 6 months", "just getting married (Aug08), wrong ethinicity, only older children available.... once I ha...

Tuesday, June 15th 2010, 10:44pm

Author: Marlene

Birth Child

Hi Gemma Lovely to hear that your DH is willing to look into adoption. I think that you will find that most of the agencies will have guidelines for ages of birth children. The reason I suspect is that the child that is being adopted needs total focus and attention having experienced everything they have gone through and by having a younger child this would impact the quality time you would spend as they would need looking aftert and nurturing too. I know it sound a long time and the process is ...

Monday, March 29th 2010, 9:23pm

Author: Marlene

The Bridge Centre, London

Hi Emo I havent heard of that particular programme , but when I was cycling I had all my treatments at the Bridge and found them very professional and very amiable people . I actually had Egg donation on their intl prgramme as well Good luck , I hopeyou hear soon




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