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Thursday, August 23rd 2012, 5:57pm

Author: Demi

Huge dilema!!!!!

Wow that is an amazing offer, what an incredibly selfless thing to do. My best friend once offered this to me, and I have to be honest, I declined for various reasons, the main one being how we would both deal with everyday life afterwards and keeping emotions in check. I think it is a very personal decision, and one that you can't make overnight. You and DH need to do a lot of talking. Sure he's immediately ruled it out, but things change. In the heat of the moment, we can all say something tha...

Friday, March 2nd 2012, 9:13pm

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Hi Lynsey. The child will come with a life story book, which details as much as is known about them, and the foster carers update it when possible. If it is an older child, then they're encouraged to do updates too. We saw a lovely one from a five year old, where she'd done lots of drawings and written the names of the people who were important to her (with the help of her foster mum). Our SW says they encourage us to keep this going when the child is place with us, because it will all help to p...

Tuesday, February 21st 2012, 10:11pm

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Don't worry about the anti depressants, I've been on them new than once and my SW put it down as reactive depression, which my gp backed up. They go into everything during assessment and just need to evidence that there's no long term risk there. If you need to know anything feel free to ask and good luck xx Ps. It's great to see you back xx

Friday, January 6th 2012, 10:51am

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Wow!!!!! That took some time to type up!!!! I hope that helps though, and don't worry, it really is something and nothing. DH was only in with his doctor for about 10-15 minutes, as there's never anything wrong with him. I was in a little longer, but I have heaps wrong with me. I forgot about the stethoscope coming out, just to listen to my chest sounds, but all pretty standard stuff on most medicals. My best advice is to be completely honest, warts and all. DH and I were from start to finish, b...

Friday, January 6th 2012, 10:45am

Author: Demi

Medical Form

OK, so thinking about it, I decided that it would be a good idea to put this on the open forum, that way, anyone considering adoption can see it. I had to take a urine sample with me, so that the doc could do a ip test to check for sugar and proteins, which is standard with any medical to be honest. I was weighed, and because my bmi was hovering on 30, she measured my waist and hips. Mp blood pressure was taken, and to be honest, I think that pysically, for most people that will be it. Because o...

Tuesday, December 27th 2011, 8:52pm

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Hi guys. I'm on my mobile at the moment. Not had a minute to myself with all the Christmas stuff. I've kept absolutely everything from start to finish in a lever arch file. I'll sit down with the laptop in the next few days and pm all the questions to you. Your gp has to be honest about when you last had tx, but they usually ask for a six month break so you should be ok. Just play dumb and say wow was that when it was, I'm lost with dates now. I'll pm you ASAP. Merry Christmas xx

Tuesday, August 16th 2011, 2:25pm

Author: Demi

BFP then bfn st marys

I'm so sorry that you're being put through this Cakeface. I had a terrible experience with SMs and can even hazard a guess at which nurse you spoke to - she has the senstivity of a wasp!!!! I can't offer any advice, but I can assure you that you're NOT the first lady to test again after a BFP only to get a negative, and you won't be the last. As for the muppet at EPU..............I can't actually say what I'm thinking or what I'd have done if he'd treated me like that!! My thoughts are with you,...

Monday, July 4th 2011, 1:49pm

Author: Demi

adopting and previous cancer

Hi Nadine, Sorry to hear about your BFN. As far as the adoption process goes, they insist that you have come to the end of your journey ttc, and have come to terms with your feelings. They say a minimum of 6 months should be left after your last ivf/icsi cycle and even then they assess you on a one-to--one basis, and if they feel that your journey is not over or that you haven't come to terms with not havin a biologiical child, then they won't allow you to proceed. My advice is to go through the...

Saturday, July 2nd 2011, 3:11pm

Author: Demi

what happens next?

Good luck for Monday hun. Don't worry about the meeting, we were surprised at how 'normal' and laid back the Social Workers all are, and they're not out to get you at all, they want to help you to make sure that you make the right decisions. They told us that the best advice they can give, is for us to be open and hoonest, and hold nothing back from them, don't try to hide anything. The more you give, the easier and shorter the process is, and there's less chance of them getting the match right ...

Friday, June 10th 2011, 5:47pm

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Hi Mole, Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you, I'll send you a pm now with a list of the questions. Good luck xxx

Friday, June 3rd 2011, 11:13pm

Author: Demi

adoption medical

Hi Mole, I'm going for my medical a week on Thursday, so will be able to let you know after that. The form's changed a little since April, and we had to fill in a section of questions and send them back to the SW for them to send on to our GPs. If you want to know the questions that are on there, let me know and I'll drop you a pm. Good luck xxx PS, DHs GP is chargin £95.00 and mine is charging £70.00, I think it depends on individual surgeries and how much they want to fleece you

Tuesday, May 10th 2011, 9:26pm

Author: Demi

Spray tan before egg collection?

Hi Disco, I had something similar on our first cycle, and when I checked with the clinic (I took the bottle in with me) they said it was absolutely fine, no problem at all. It wasn't St. Tropez though, it was Fake Bake. If you can get hold of a bottle of that, and some latex gloves, you can do it at home yourself and save a packet. It goes on a bit like mud, but is impossible to get wrong or streak (just be careful around your hands and ankles, don't put loads on that are (and exfoliate beforeha...

Monday, April 18th 2011, 5:44pm

Author: Demi

EEK! I've just been on the Jeremy vine show! it was suggested that before IVF you have a "moral duty" to consider adoption..... what do you think?

Hi Suki, I just listened to the section online (anyone who's doing it, the adoption/ivf debate starts 1 minute 11 seconds in) and I have to say that you came accross very well and didn't sound at all like a fishwife. I found myself getting very angry at the male guest who started the debate and also at the caller after you. She sounded really annoyed about people going through ivf and I notice she played the'I'm blind' card, quite what that had to do with the debate I have no idea, but at no poi...

Tuesday, March 29th 2011, 7:27pm

Author: Grumpymare

Anyone had full immunology tests done direct with Chicago to save money??

Hi Misty. CARE quoted us the same figure a few months back, and I have to admit that it was one of the deciding factors in us walking away from treatment. We were annoyed, because only a couple of months before, they had quoted us £1450.00. I hope you manage to sort something out - it may be an idea to contact ARGC if they're only charging £900.00 and see if there's some way you could get them done there. Might mean a trip to and from London on the train, but it's a darn sight cheaper than 2k. G...

Tuesday, March 8th 2011, 2:11pm

Author: Demi

Scan at 6w+4 - too early?

So so sorry that you're going through this and am praying that it's good news on Monday. I have a friend who went through the same thing and thought it was all over, and we were heartbroken. It was just too early for her though, and was good news (eventually) and she is due to give birth anytime, so please don't give up hope and try to relax over the next week (I know easier said than done). Will be praying for the right result on Monday xxx

Monday, March 7th 2011, 8:34pm

Author: Demi

info about adoption

PS, I found that the more I brought the subject up, the more he dug his heels in and the more we argued. I eventually sat back and started to come to terms with the possibility that he wouldn't come round, and that's when he started to consider it in his own mind and had a good think about things. Once he was ready and had all the questions he needed to ask, HE brought the subject up and we talked and talked for hours about it and started to look online for information. It may be worth doing the...

Monday, March 7th 2011, 8:26pm

Author: Demi

info about adoption

Hi JB. Firstly, a very Happy Birthday for today, I hope this is evening is much happier foor you. Now, I know that there is the possibility that DH won't have a change of heart, but take a look at my diary. Not so long ago, DH was really digging his heels in that he would absolutely not look at adoption. He didn't think he would be able to love a AC the way he would a biological one, and very honestly, said that his worry was that if 6 months down the line he felt nothing for an AC then he ran t...

Sunday, March 6th 2011, 2:11pm

Author: Demi

HOW IT FEELS - RANT CORNER

Have to say, that whilst I understand the way we write things can come accross completely wrong and not at all in the way we were meaning, it does seem that Angels has borne the brunt of this, and nothing has been said about the tone of Rene's post. Reading the thread, I fully understood that we were talking about celebrities and that in no way was A&B inferring that mothers who return to work are in any way bad mothers, but then I got to Rene's post, and I have to say that I found it's tone bot...

Friday, February 11th 2011, 1:23pm

Author: Demi

Recycling of Dr Beers book - Is your Body Baby Friendly

Hi evryone, Sorry I'm just posting, but as I said, I'm really poorly at the moment. Thanks for all the interset. It's a shame that I only had the one copy to give away, I feel a bit rotten having to let you all down. I decided that the fairest way to do this was to let it go to the first person who contacted me. I was thinkiong though, wouldn't it be a good idea if we started a thread and passed on copies of the book to other members. There must be loads of them stuck in drawers no longer being ...

Wednesday, February 9th 2011, 9:14am

Author: Demi

A new year, a new journey, a new approach, an old hope......... a family?

Hi Weasleys, We're in exactly the same position as you, and are both very nervous about stepping onto this new rollercoaster. We have the application forms from a local agency, and are also going to contact the LA to see what they have to say. I''m not too well at the moment, so we're just holding off for a little while untilI'm on an even keel, then will be starting in earnest. It's really scary, and I know just what you mean about feeling alone. I've loads of good friends on here, but none are...




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